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Friday, August 12, 2011

Back To School, Back to the Doctor and Don't Forget the Dentist!

If last week was your child's first week back to school then I can imagine it was a whirlwind getting all of his or her important documents together to enroll. My co-worker had a "laundry list" of required school supplies, permission slips, and back to school immunization forms to complete. While doctor check-ups are the required norm before going back to school, an increasing number of states are requiring dental check-ups as well.

The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry (AAPD) suggests that children should visit the dentist before their first birthday. AAPD states, "Your child should visit a pediatric dentist when the first tooth comes in, usually between 6 and 12 months of age. This visit will establish a dental home for your child. Early examination and preventive care will protect your child’s smile now and in the future.

Cavities as an adult scare me and I can't imagine how little people and teens would feel if they experienced tooth decay at a young age. "It's all about prevention, initial dental screenings and orthodontic consultations, treatment of existing conditions, regular visits and proper home care can prevent major dental and orthodontic problems in the future and may save lots of money in the long run," said Dr. Sana Pasha Augustus, a graduate from Howard University College of Dentistry.










I interviewed Dr. Genise A. Evans of Southern Smiles Family Dentistry to get her advice on how to prevent dental problems and hopefully reduce dental phobia in small children.

Q: Why are early and regular dental visits important?

Dr. Evans: Early office visits can help prevent dental phobia in young children and teens. Our office recommends seeing children as soon as the first tooth comes in. This allows us to educate parents on the importance of home care and creating positive habits. Our hope as family practitioners is to develop long term relationships with families. We like to see children early to get them acclimated to the dental office. We want to dispel myths and horror stories about dental visits. Early and regular visits to the dental office allow us to hopefully have mostly happy appointments; and should we detect developing decay we can address it before pain is the prevailing factor for the dental visit.

Q: Can nighttime feedings promote tooth decay in small children?

Dr. Evans: We encourage parents of small children to avoid bottle feeding or use of sippy cups at night. Those habits tend to promote the development of tooth decay. Although being a mom myself, I understand some parents find it necessary to offer night time feedings to small children but we encourage wiping their mouths with a cloth immediately afterwards. That small step can help prevent the development of tooth decay. We also recommend filling those bottles or sippy cups with water if your child needs that to fall asleep.

Q: What should children expect when going to the dentist?

Dr. Evans states: Dental visits for young children (2 and younger) generally involves the dentist simply taking a look in the child's mouth. Even if the child cries we praise them for opening wide enough for us to see everything and reward their attempted cooperation with cool gifts like a brand new tooth brush and dinosaur floss and stickers. Our hope as an office is that the child remembers the positives, so we spend a lot of time focusing on their triumph in allowing the dentist to check their teeth. We love to get mom and dad involved in the praise as well. In my experience this method makes for excellent dental patients (even into adulthood).

Q: What recommendations do you have for parents to help encourage brushing and flossing with their children?

Dr. Evans: We recommend parents aid their children with bushing and flossing every night. Night time is the most important time to ensure that children do not develop tooth decay. During the day children are talking, eating, drinking and their saliva is constantly washing the teeth. Night time is different, at night the mouth creates a dark moist warm environment that bacteria loves to breed in.

I tell the parents just like I tell the kids don't feed the "Cavity Creep" at night, make sure your teeth are very clean before you go to bed. Please allow your child the independence they seek in the morning. Let them brush their own teeth in the morning with a little supervision. It really isn't a big deal if they don't get the teeth sparkling clean, but it does matter in helping them independently learn the mechanics of brushing without compromising their overall oral health. Allowing them to brush solo at night can cause problems for the oral health if not done properly.

Q: Should children use training toothpaste or toothpaste containing fluoride?

Dr. Evans: One caveat to brushing that is extremely important is that if your child cannot spit do not use a toothpaste containing fluoride (use training toothpaste). As soon as your child learns how to spit (well) it is okay to use a regular kids' toothpaste (containing fluoride). Ingesting too much fluoride can cause staining on developing permanent teeth. However fluoride is important in developing healthy strong teeth and should not be avoided; only used when a child is ready (meaning they can spit more than they swallow).

Q: Is flossing important for children?

Dr. Evans: Flossing is as important for children as it is for adults. Occasionally children have gaps between all of the baby teeth which allows you to brush 360 degrees around the tooth surface. However many children lack the spacing and can only brush the front and back surfaces of their teeth; leaving a significant portion of the tooth untouched therefore prone to tooth decay. Flossing helps prevent the development of decay in between the teeth. Flossing with your child early creates good habits. The same way they have learned the importance of brushing twice a day, they will remember to floss once a day. Just creates excellent home care habits and decreases the potential development of tooth decay.

About Dr. Evans: Genise A. Evans is true G.R.I.T.S (Girl Raised In The South). She was born in Atlanta,GA and graduated from one of Atlanta's finest public high schools. Genise earned a Bachelor of Science degree in Biology from The University of Alabama at Birmingham in 1993. She then moved north of 85 to attend dental school at Howard University in Washington, DC. There she earned a DDS degree in 1997. Upon graduation from dental school Genise chose to serve her country and improve her dental proficiency by completing an AEGD residency with The United States Army Dental Corp. After serving 4 years in the U.S. Army she moved back to her beloved Atlanta and has been practicing for many years. Outside of dentistry Genise enjoys time with her Power Ranger/Super Hero son and photography. Dr. Evans would love for you to become apart of our Southern Smiles Family.

About Dr. Augustus: Sana Pasha Augustus is originally from Silver Spring, Maryland and currently resides in Laurel, Maryland. She completed her Bachelor of Science and Master of Science degrees in Chemistry from Clark Atlanta University in 2001. She completed both dental school and her orthodontic residency at Howard University College of Dentistry in 2011.

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Thursday, July 21, 2011

Absent Parents: It's Time to Get Involved













At 15 I was the product of a divorce household. I understood that my parents' marriage had ended and the result was going to be them not being together anymore and his household was moving across the country. My siblings and I visited our Dad often and he came to see us, but our dwelling mainly stayed under Mom's rooftop.

Dealing with divorce as a young adult was extremely painful. However, I always felt truly blessed and very fortunate to have two amazing parents who loved us unconditionally. I couldn't imagine not having a relationship with either parent. Nor could I imagine them not wanting to be an important part in our lives.

The theme of absent parents kept reoccurring after I lost my Dad. In May, at his public memorial service in New York, I embraced and spoke with many of his former students. One woman hugged me for quite some time and told me that my Dad was the Father that she never had. Her Father was still alive, but he had not been a part of her life since she was a little girl.

One gentleman told me that my speech encouraged him to be a better Father. I thanked him and was glad that I was able to touch him in a way that propelled him to become better in his parenting.

Flying back with my family from New York to Atlanta, I kept thinking about parents who are absent in their children's lives. Another message that remained in my mind and heart was that, "You only have one life to live." I no longer had my Dad present with me on Earth, but I have 31 years of wonderful memories to cherish and hold on to for the rest of my life.

Researchers on divorce have shown that a father figure is important in a child's life in order for them to develop emotionally, mentally, and even physically. Nina Chen, Ph.D., Human Development Specialist advises parents, "If you have not been involved much in your child's life, start now to spend quality time with your child. For a divorced and non-residential father, it is very important to keep regular contacts and spend quality time with children. Mothers also need to provide support and encouragement to help build the bond between a child and a father."

Why do some parents decide to not be a part of their children's lives? Is it because they are upset with their exes? Or maybe it's because they have a grudge because they have to pay child support?

I think absent parents need to stop using the excuse that they no longer want to be a part of their ex's life and therefore they cannot be involved with their children's lives. Stop using these excuses because it's never too late to get involved with your children.

My mom says, "Children don't ask to be born." I've often thought about this and firmly believe that it's true. If you decide to have a child, then it's your and your partner's responsibility to take care of your child.

How do absent parents get involved and play an active role in their child's life?

Author Jennifer Wolf states, "Much of what is required is actually simple - things like planning ahead for visits, being there when you say you will, and not allowing your commitment to your kids to fall into an 'out of sight, out of mind' abyss. Once parents who initially thought they couldn't or wouldn't be involved in their children's lives begin to see their own ability to have a positive impact, their motivation to maintain their involvement can develop."

When I lost my Dad I realized even more so that life is not forever. I also am more aware of spending quality time with our children and making a positive impact in their lives, the same way that our parents made in ours. "Divorce is never easy for any family, but it does not have to destroy children's lives or lead to family breakdown," states author and sociologist Constance Ahrons. Life is too short and uncertain to not be involved with your children's lives.


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Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Are Smart Phones Dumbing Down Our Children?

My nephew can use an iPhone better than I can. He can flip through photos, enlarge pictures, turn them upside down, and the two-year-older can even go to his favorite Apps and demonstrate how to use them. I stare at him in shock, but quickly remember that my almost four-year-older can do the same thing.

Am I the only blogger in America that doesn't have a smart phone? I have this cute, sliding, free phone, while my husband has a sleek upgrade. Our oldest son can't figure out why my phone isn't like the majority of people in America.

Growing up, our cell phone was connected to a large battery and remained in the trunk of my mom's car, "for emergency purposes." The phone was huge and looked like a jukebox. We didn't have TV's in our rooms, had one desktop computer, a typewriter, which my dad used, and got phones in our rooms when we entered high school. I was so brainwashed about not having a TV in my room, that as an RA in college, I put my only TV in the living room.

The question is debatable, "Are smart phones and technology dumbing down our kids?" My initial reaction to that question is, "no." I think texting is making our kids a bit hyper and poses a danger when they try to multitask by tweeting, eating, breathing, and walking at the same time.

Emory University English professor Mark Bauerlein, is the author of The Dumbest Generation: How the Digital Age Stupefies Young Americans and Jeopardizes Our Future, stated he “does not trust anyone under 30.” What happens when the 30-year-old somethings, have children, then he would probably argue that we are corrupting them with social media. Are we tweeting too often: http://www.howoftendoyoutweet.com?

Matt McGee's article, "By the Numbers: Twitter vs. Facebook vs. Google Buzz,” statistically points out how often people are using social media:

Updates/Posts

* Facebook status updates: 700 per second
* Twitter tweets: 600 per second
* Buzz posts: 55 per second

And compared to searches (see our postscript below)

* Google: 34,000 searches per second
* Yahoo: 3,200 searches per second
* Bing: 927 searches per second

I'm torn about this subject, because sometimes I believe social media can cause interruptions in life and warp of reality. I get perturbed when someone answers a text during a meeting or a meal. Some have become too busy trying to describe their latest activity in 140 characters, while others are constantly responding to the question on Facebook, "What's on your mind?" On the flipside, social media has allowed people to connect and easily stay in touch.

Truth be told, social media is ingenious. We are in an age where technology is increasing, as well as our interest in learning more about the subject and discovering the wonders of the unknown and greater possibilities. Bottom line, I believe parents must monitor their children’s over-usage of technology. If your son/daughter is starting to put tweet phrases in his/her English paper or on the SAT, then we have something to be worried about. Until then, just monitor their statuses and tweets.

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